The lights, the music and the merriment of the season are upon us, and in our Currier and Ives town, we welcomed the Christmas Walk and the menorah lighting with great aplomb. For many of us though, this season can evoke feelings of loneliness, stress or sadness, which can exacerbate depression.
Carols blaring from every sound system tell us “There’s no place like home for the holidays,” to feel “Joy to the World” and that “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year.” But sometimes these sentiments can amplify feelings in stark contrast to the mantra of the month. Inflated expectations that conjure up joyful festivities may contrast sharply with the realities many face, such as financial stress, social isolation or grief and loss. Understanding and managing these feelings is crucial for mental well-being during this time.
There are some helpful ways to help cope and find a balance to maintain wellness and prioritize mental health. Firstly, it is important to acknowledge and accept your feelings of sadness or loneliness without judgment. You are not the only one who might feel these emotions. It is also helpful to prioritize self-care, even as daylight hours dwindle, to stay active and get outdoors or to the gym when you can. Prioritizing sleep and restorative rest, and saying no before overextending yourself are strategies to minimize feeling overwhelmed.
When feelings of loneliness arise, it’s important and okay to reach out for support and companionship with others. Volunteering your time to help others can be a good way to lift your spirits and broaden your friendships. There are many local agencies that welcome volunteers to engage in support of others, including: Lifebridge, SPUR, Marblehead Animal Shelter, Food Pantry, My Brother’s Table, Council on Aging.
Embracing realistic exceptions is a worthwhile endeavor. As families grow and change, traditions and rituals may shift as well. Choosing a few to hold on to and being open to creating new ones can help reset attainable expectations.
And lastly, reaching out for professional help is always an option. If you are persistently anxious, depressed or unable to complete your daily chores, you may benefit from care. Prioritizing your mental health is key to making it through difficult times. Ultimately, the challenge is finding a balance in your life by choosing strategies that are meaningful and keep you healthy. Please visit the MarbleheadCares.org website for local resources and support.
